What We’re All Getting Wrong About our Freak-Outs

You know how this is an uncertain time? And how lots of people and articles and bloggers (including me) have been talking about how scary uncertainty is? So...we all had it all wrong. Let me show you what I mean. The other day I had one of those freak-out moments, when the uncertainty around this pandemic - and just life in general - felt so scary. ...
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A Knowledge Nugget: How to REALLY Deal With Our Current Fears

No doubt about it. It’s an uncertain, scary time. Social distancing has many of us feeling isolated. News stories filled with speculation have us scared and confused. The every-side-is-doing-it blame game fills us with anger and frustration. We worry about our loved ones. We worry about our bank accounts. We worry about how long this will go on. All...
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How to Stop Making Things Worse for Yourself

So, this happened... Now that I’ve begun with some melodrama, allow me to bring it down. I actually chose this situation. It was a planned, fairly major foot surgery that was decades in the making. One of the reasons I’d put it off is that it’s notoriously gnarly. In fact, many people who’d been in my shoes (so to speak) told me not to have it. ...
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The Problem with Your Good Intentions

Well, I meant well. Recently a friend of mine was getting ready to celebrate a milestone birthday. This friend is awesome. She's just so good at knowing what to say to you and how to care for you and which kind of munchy snack to bring when you’re feeling blue. And so, a group of us decided to celebrate her in a big, huge, awesome way...with a big, ...
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This Post was Supposed to be about Letting Go

Letting go sure ain’t easy. I’ve wanted to write about it for a while, but, frankly, haven’t quite been able to figure out how to do it. Recently, though, I thought I was getting close. It all came to a head when a buddy of mine finally got me to give rock climbing a try. It was at one of those indoor climbing jobbies that are hot right now. When we...
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How to Stop Sinking Yourself

I begin today’s post with a brief tale involving a friend of mine. His situation may sound pretty familiar to you. He decided to read a book. A very, very popular one. He eagerly began the first page, then got a bit further in and realized he wasn’t quiiiiiite loving it. By page 30 or so he realized that he…well, he hated it. I mean he hated it.  Didn’...
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