Category: Blog Archive

  • What Attraction is REALLY About

    What Attraction is REALLY About

    Recently I learned another – humbling – leadership lesson. It taught me a thing or two about what really attracts people…to us as individuals and leaders, and to our organizations. I begin with a spoiler alert: Despite what we hear every day, attraction isn’t about our perfect outfit, our fancy new car or our carefully…

  • How to Have a Terrible Day

    Last week found me at the Louisville airport. I’d just finished up a presentation and was heading home. I sat quietly at the gate and began to organize my bag before boarding….which is when I opened my wallet, looked down, and panicked. It was just like in the movies, when a character realizes something has…

  • What People Really Want From You

    Just when I thought I couldn’t learn any more humility after my recent shenanigans (see my last post for just one example), another humbling lesson came my way this week. I was asked to give a few opening keynote remarks at an evening conference. The coordinator wasn’t looking for some long, sweeping speech. Instead, a…

  • 9 Steps to Hiring an Executive Director…Right

    It cannot be denied that the executive director is the most critical role for any nonprofit. While every staff and board member is important, it is this key leader who ultimately oversees the day-to-day, inspires and guides the team, and represents the organization to the outside world. For these reasons, hiring an executive director is…

  • My Unfortunate, Epic, Completely Avoidable Meltdown

    Today I invite you on a journey, one that will eventually lead to one of my most dramatic confrontations in recent history. In fact, it’s been just about a year since I brought you the tale of my last such incident in my blog post lessons learned from a major meltdown Today’s has a different…

  • The Gift You Don’t Know You Have

    A few months ago a woman called from Arizona. She asked if I’d consider presenting at a conference she was putting together. In my mind the answer was clear. This was a great opportunity. They were going to pay my way, pay my fee, and give me the chance to test out a whole new…

  • Second Place, Faulty Brakes and Stubborn Suits

    Over the past few weeks many of us have found ourselves hooked on the Olympics. It’s hard not to be since we hear about them everywhere. While I find myself listening to my fair share of the media’s ongoing, often melodramatic reporting…I also find the best stories tend to be a bit buried. They’re the…

  • When Others Tell You Way Too Much

    If I ever had a doubt that life has a funny sense of humor, I sure remembered it last week. It happened on the day I flew into Colorado to give a presentation on networking – specifically, on how to talk to anybody at anytime. It was the very same day that a few folks decided…

  • What We Can All Learn from My Monthly Freak-Out

    I’m about to allow myself a moment of vulnerability with you. Brace yourself. There’s a certain day about once each month that I dread more than any other day. It’s the day I go into my accounting software and take a good, hard look at the numbers. I look at what I brought in. I…

  • How to Kill a Conversation

    Conversations drive our lives. They mean everything. Yet we all face the temptation to do something every day – sometimes several times each day – to mess them up. I dare you to tell me the following hasn’t happened to you. You’re in the midst of a conversation and someone else is speaking and – BAM!…

  • The Two Seconds that Matter Most

    Last week found me touring around wine country. It was supposed to be a week off of all things work – where we wound our through vineyards and took itsy bitsy tastes of wine before saying obnoxious things like “hmmm…not quite as complex as I might have expected from a Syrah.” But I couldn’t help…

  • The Thing That Makes You Less Likeable

    Recently I attended the wedding of a former colleague. It was an amazing affair, filled with premier entertainment, succulent food, lots of people in attendance I wanted to know. And one I didn’t. At least not anymore. I actually knew him already. We’d met once, several years before. But that was enough. At the time…