How to Stop Sinking Yourself

I begin today’s post with a brief tale involving a friend of mine. His situation may sound pretty familiar to you.

He decided to read a book. A very, very popular one. He eagerly began the first page, then got a bit further in and realized he wasn’t quiiiiiite loving it. By page 30 or so he realized that he…well, he hated it download children's games.

I mean he hated it.  Didn’t like the main character. Couldn’t stand being stuck in the first-person narrator’s head. Couldn’t wait for it to be over.

So what did he do? He continued reading it all the way to the end. Hated each and every word.

When I asked him why the heck he did that, he said, “well, once I start reading a book I have to finish it, even if I’m not getting anything out of it pastewkaen. It’s just how I am.”

Chances are you’ve been there in some way.

Whether it’s a book or something else, you slog through something that does absolutely nothing for you, pushing through to the end simply because you started it. Giving yourself one more laborious task in a world of laborious tasks.

If so, you fell for the myth of sunk costs.

Chances are you know what a sunk cost is…a cost of time/energy/money that has been incurred and cannot be recovered in design herunterladen.

Sunk costs are, by definition, in the past…yet somehow, they have a tendency to bind us to future actions that may or may not work for us.

It happens in all kinds of ways:

  • We spend a decade in a career that we really don’t like (anymore)…but feel like we’ve spent all kinds of time getting to our current position and so we continue on. And we’re unhappy.
  • We realize that a friend we’ve known since college is actually sucking the life out of us on a regular basis…but feel like we’ve spent too much effort to end it now animal crossing kostenlos herunterladen. So the life-sucking continues.
  • We splurge on an expensive bottle of wine that winds up tasting like soggy peat moss…but feel like we’ve spent all that money on it and so we must finish it. It doesn’t go well.

When your sunk costs are the sole reason for continuing something, it’s time to stop sinking yourself.

Sure, there are plenty of times when finishing something makes sense ekg app herunterladen. Quickbooks classes that bore you will help you do your own accounting. Data-crunching projects that overwhelm you will help your team at work. Travel to foreign lands that excite you…well, they excite you. Reason enough!

But.

When you continue something simply because you incurred some kind of cost in the past… when there’s no joy or satisfaction or greater benefit involved…when it’s potentially harmful…it’s time to stop sinking yourself apple watch musik downloaden.

It’s time to let sunk costs be in the past (which cannot be changed)…to recognize that they don’t matter nearly as much as your well-being and life satisfaction in the future (which is still to be determined…by you). To understand that letting them go makes way for things that will be so much better for you.

But Deirdre…you may be thinking…I believe it’s important to see things through, especially if I invest my time and money in it herunterladen windows 7 kostenlos!

To which I ask…why? Just to see it through? Even if it doesn’t work for you? Because that’s how you’ve done things in the past?

I’ve got news for you. The past is the past. Gone. It’s time to move on…to embrace what works for you now and in the future. After all, that’s all of you’ve got, right kompletten ordner aus icloud herunterladen?

Find yourself resisting? There may be another reason.

Sunk costs can feel like the perfect justification (a.k.a. excuse) for staying stuck. After all, change is scary…and if you tell yourself that you’ve invested too much to back out now, you’ve given yourself a perfectly good reason to avoid the change altogether perfect player herunterladen.

Except sunk costs are not a perfectly good reason for sticking with things that don’t work for you. There must be more reasons.

If not, you must let those sunk costs go. Then focus your precious time, energy and money on things that work for you…that excite you…that make you tick…

…that you enjoy for heaven’s sake free gif images!

Please, stop sinking.

And see how much you can fly.

9 thoughts on “How to Stop Sinking Yourself

  1. Robyn says:

    Another great blog as always. Thank you!

    1. My pleasure – thanks so much for giving it a read!

      1. Donna maloney says:

        Got a lot about you said read it to the end.given me many things to think about thanks

  2. Tina says:

    Reading this is like getting permission to let go. I know I should; I’ve tried to do it; now I can. Thanks.

    1. Well Tina, this just made my day! So happy that you’re taking the steps to let go…that’s just so terrific!

  3. Tracie Smith says:

    Fiercely loyal, i sometimes forget to prioritize my continued growth and happiness, over commitments to things that no longer serve me well.
    Timely. Thank you, Deirdre!

    1. So glad to hear it Tracie…thanks very much! Hope you’re doing wonderfully these days!

  4. Samantha Goldstein says:

    Needed to hear this today! You are so right on, as usual. Miss you, girl!

    1. So glad to hear it, Sam! Thanks as always for your support…miss you back!

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