How Your Big Goal May Be Holding You Back

Yesterday found me at a beloved spot in good old Southern California: the beach.

Ah yes, the beach. Whether on a lake, the banks of the river or the Pacific Ocean…most of us have experienced that magical strip of sand that meets some body of water and extricates a bit of joy from deep down.

Most of us have also discovered the other truth about the beach…

It can be pretty friggin’ uncomfortable.

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The sun can get blazing hot…the water frigidly cold dll herunterladen. And that sand? It sticks everywhere and rubs itself everywhere and makes a mess of things…everywhere.

So why do millions of people plan their vacations and free time around something that is so darn uncomfortable? Because deep down they’ve figured out an important lesson…

Sometimes life just isn’t about being comfortable.

Think about it.

We spend a whole lot of our life, most of it I’d suggest, trying our best to succeed at one big goal: being comfortable something from the zdf medialibrary.

We want comfort now, we set ourselves up for comfort in the future, and we sure as heck don’t want to repeat any discomfort we’ve felt in the past. And so:

  • We take the higher-paying job so we’ll never have to worry about paying the bills. We don’t want to feel uncomfortable about money englisch phase 6 kostenlosen.
  • We avoid hard conversations with our colleagues or friends so as to keep the vibe positive. We don’t want to make our groups uncomfortable.
  • We go with the restaurant, movie, and travel route that we know so as to assure a good time. We don’t want to get into an experience that’s uncomfortable school cloud herunterladen.

And what happens?

  • Money worries continue because, well, they always do…don’t they?
  • Our awkward dynamic with our colleague continues because we never talked a troubling incident through
  • Our usual routine feels fine (or not), but there’s a sense that there could be…more

I can guess what you’re thinking.

Yes, there are plenty of times when the goal of comfort makes sense. We don’t like to experience pain or awkwardness or fear. We have families and responsibilities commerzbank phototan app herunterladen. We hate feeling exposed and vulnerable.

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And so we make plans and choices that assure us our best odds at being as comfortable as possible.

But.

Perhaps the goal isn’t always to be comfortable.

Perhaps another good goal is to be curious…about what other opportunities and experiences are out there sims 4 häuser herunterladen mac.

Perhaps a bit of discomfort, vulnerability and risk are actually worthwhile costs, and we shouldn’t automatically push potentially uncomfortable choices aside.

Perhaps we can even welcome discomfort into our lives, because we know we might just learn, do or experience something amazing as a result media playeren windows 7.

Sure, sometimes the consequences won’t be worth it in the end. But sometimes they will.

So perhaps it’s time to change our thinking about comfort. And discomfort.

After all, sometimes life might simply be about frolicking in the waters of the Pacific, knowing that the sand will get everywhere Pc games free download full versions german windows 10.

Sure, we’ll be exposed and vulnerable (more so than most other destinations, yes?). But we also know it’ll be a blast. Plus, we’ll get to do it with lots of other exposed people who traded a little comfort for a whole lot of fun.

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This week…

Get curious ms office 365 herunterladen.

Recognize how many decisions are about the goal of keeping things comfortable. Recognize those times when comfort might not be the most important thing.

Try just one little thing that makes you uncomfortable in some way. Then try another.

And think about what new experiences might just be coming next office vollversion kostenlos downloaden deutsch. Comfortable or not.

Now, go do good…and do it well.

8 thoughts on “How Your Big Goal May Be Holding You Back

  1. Carol LeBeau says:

    Right on, Deidre!
    Just what I needed today…so timely!

  2. Deirdre Maloney says:

    So glad to hear it, Carol – thanks so much for taking the time to give it a read!

  3. Ken T says:

    Good word Deirdre, I can see how so many decision I’ve made we’re influenced by comfort. Thanks!

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks Ken…I agree, and am realizing just today how much I do it regularly. I guess awareness is the first step! 🙂

  4. Susan Paul says:

    New day, new month, new opportunities – that’s what I wrote on my calendar.

    I am moving out of my comfort zone by learning to “say no” in order to fall into focus on my goals. While I love to help organize other peoples’ lives and to support community through service I am realizing I have to be more judicious with my time in order to change my dreams into reality.

    Just over the weekend I spent a wonderful day in Ocean Beach studying for an exam and it was a really rewarding day. I basked in the sunshine in the park and later ate some delicious organic vegan fare. I realized how much I enjoy getting away from it all and that’s it is okay to disconnect in order to become a better me!

    Thanks for your words of wisdom. 🙂

    Stay well,
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    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks for sharing your personal points about this, Susan…it’s so interesting how the “comfort zone” is so different for different people. I guess that’s what makes this world so fascinating and unpredictable!

  5. Patty Costa says:

    Thank you Deirdre for your incite. I think I mostly try to keep in my comfort zone and may be missing somethings. Definitely food for thought

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks Patty – and I think we all do. It’s natural…though who knows what else we’re missing! 🙂

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