Let’s Get Personal

Hubbie and I recently found ourselves engaging in two different…discussions.

The first involved a whole lot of bickering…making for some cranky moments at the coffee shop.

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The topic at hand ms project 2007 kostenlos? A small, single flyer that he designed for one of my new upcoming workshops.

    “I think it should look like this,” he said, pointing to his computer screen and explaining his reasons.
    “I don’t like the placement of the graphics,” I said.
    “I put them that way to draw people’s attention to the headline,” he said powerpoint downloaden 2018.
    “I don’t care,” I said.

And on and on the discussion went, our whispers sharpening, our frustration increasing. Eventually, after a looooong debate, we found a solution that satisfied us both.

The second discussion involved a very civilized conversation.

The topic at hand? A big, expensive RV that we might purchase in the relatively near future if we take the new workshop on the road weltraum spiele kostenlos herunterladen.

    “I think we should get this one,” he said, pointing to his computer screen and explaining his reasons.
    “Okay,” I said.

What the heck, Deirdre?…you may be thinking.  How is it you can care so much about a silly little flyer, and then care so little about a huge financial commitment?

It’s a fair question. After all I trust Hubbie, and both of his explanations were well thought-out. So what was the difference?

The flyer was personal tiptoi world of music.

I put a lot of energy into the workshop, and I wanted the flyer to feel a certain way. I wanted it to represent me, my values, my personal brand. I was emotionally invested. And so I would stop at nothing to have it turn out the way I wanted.

Sure, the RV was an important decision mit iphone facebook videos herunterladen. It would impact my quality of life on a day-to-day basis. But it wasn’t personal. While I was financially invested, I wasn’t emotionally invested. And so I was more open.

Every day we deal with things on a personal level:

  • We work hard to meet our career goals because we know we’re achieving something…and that feels personal herunterladen.
  • We put our all into our creative projects because they reflect our points of view…and that feels personal.
  • We strive to be an excellent parent, to excel at our golf game, to make a provocative point in our class, because we want to be as good as we can be…and that feels personal.

Having something feel personal can be both a blessing and a curse.

On one hand, it means that we are truly invested, that we are all in, that we will stop at nothing to get the outcome we want elster forms.

On the other hand it means we can get pretty sensitive. It means we take success or failure, and the words of others related to it, with a greater emotional force. This sensitivity can cause us to lash out at others – and ourselves – when things don’t go our way.

It can make us downright cranky.

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None of this is right or wrong application templates to for free. But it does lead to a few points to consider on the personal front…

Point #1: Personal or no?

When you engage in a new project or relationship, know from the start how emotionally invested you are. Think through how much it matters to you. Consider why.

Know the signs. If you find yourself lashing out when something doesn’t turn out your way, recognize that it might be more personal to you than you thought whatsapp do not download photos.

Point #2: Put up a warning flair

If you’re engaging in something that feels highly personal, give the other people involved a heads up. Let them know how much it matters to you, that you might be more sensitive than usual, that you might be more of a stickler on how it goes down.

Also, take note if it might be personal for others involved to download. (Hubbie takes his design projects to heart, which helped contribute to that looooong debate over the flyer.)

Point #3: Get some perspective

Recognize that, as personal as something feels, it might not be the huge deal you think it is.

Just because something feels personal doesn’t mean it reflects your value as a person. If that’s how it feels to you, then take some steps to realize that you are awesome, no matter what happens.

In the end…

Getting personal is a part of being human. And it can be a great part.

Just recognize when something really matters…and when you might be taking something personally for no reason.

It might just make your day a whole lot better.

Which will make you a whole lot happier.

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This week…

Get personal. Recognize your emotional investments.

Let others know when they come up.

Hold strong on what really matters to you…and recognize that not everything matters as much as you think.

And be the awesome person that you are.

Now go do good…and do it well.

P.S. Special thanks to MHX for the pic of “Grumpy Alice” (how awesome is that?)…and to [puamelia] for the happy cat photo.

 

11 thoughts on “Let’s Get Personal

  1. Mark says:

    Oh, Deidre! You require much of those of us with writer’s brains: (I don’t recall the quote verbatim but it’s something like “poetry is turmoil recalled in tranquility.”) Would that I had the presence of mind to remember your guidance in the moment!

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Wow Mark…that was one of the more eloquent comments I’ve gotten. Here’s to presence of mind!

  2. Perky says:

    Dead on Deidre! Thanks for helping me figure this out!

  3. Sarah says:

    It’s like you overheard my conversations with my own Hubbie and colleagues today and provided me virtual therapy! Thank you!

  4. Deirdre Maloney says:

    That’s awesome Sarah – glad to be of service! 🙂

  5. Lauri M says:

    Thank you, Dierdre. Don’t know how you are always able to be so on-point. You are an A+ student of human nature! I appreciate that you always give me pause and have the highly digestible take-always that sink in to my self diagnosed case of ‘busy-brain.’

    Good luck with the RV decision- sounds intriguing!

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks Laura – I love the grade in human nature. It’s tricky but fun stuff! Will keep you posted on the RV decision of course 🙂

  6. Patty says:

    Thank you Deidre for some very sound advice. Sometimes I find I have had to learn the most important lessons of life the hard way. Then I try to choose my battles. Not everything is worth a battle!

  7. Deirdre Maloney says:

    You’re so right, Patty – choosing your battles is the first way to keep yourself at peace. Then it’s figuring out just how to make those battles less personal!

  8. Colleen Lukoff says:

    Deirdre, so fun to hear you explanation of this. And – regarding the RV for work – my brother went this way last year. A whole new life for the family, but very fulfilling for this phase of their life. Good luck with it all.

  9. Deirdre Maloney says:

    How great, Colleen! It’s funny how many people I know are connected to others who are doing this. Sounds amazing. Thanks for giving the post a read – and for your kind words…

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