What to do about Life’s Little Stinks

The day began on a high note. Not only were we about to take a bike tour that would explore the beautiful fields of France’s seemingly endless vineyards, but – perhaps more importantly – we’d also get to try out the wine.

And while the tour did indeed begin with lots of bright smiles…

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…it ended with a significantly more awkward one sims 4 gratisen ea.

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It ended at the hospital.

It ended with a bit of a stink.

It turns out that – in addition to all of that French food in my system – I’d also been housing a clever little gastrointestinal virus zdftivi herunterladen. It dropped my blood pressure to a point where I passed out in the middle of a winery tour…leading me to add socialized healthcare to my list of French experiences.

I told myself that this was just a brief hiccup in my adventure. The next day we were scheduled to drive to the Alps for a two-day stay, and I knew I’d be fine herunterladen.

But, alas, it was not meant to be.

The tenacious little virus forced my body to use every single ounce of energy to get it out of my system. Which meant that the majority of my time in the breathtaking Alps featured this not-so-breathtaking view from my hotel room:

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While Hubbie – who left the hotel room for short bursts to explore – played down the area’s magnificence, I knew the truth herunterladen. It was stunning. And I was going to miss it.

Life had handed me a stink.

Now, before you think I’m feeling all sorry for myself because my French vacation got a bit messed up, let me just say that I know life is…for the most part…awfully good. It is for many of us.

Yet it can’t be denied that life also hands us all stinks from time to time. They come in all kinds of ways, and some stink more than others:

  • Someone backs into our car on the way to an important meeting with the boss and we have to miss it
  • The “dream home” we were hoping to buy falls through thanks to a poor inspection
  • We receive news that a family member or friend has been diagnosed with a serious illness

These stinks arrive at unexpected, often incredibly unfortunate moments microsoft office 2007. They frustrate us, devastate us, sometimes completely shake up our world. Sometimes we’re not sure what to do.

And so, having experienced my share of life’s stinks – and trying to learn from them – I now present to you:

How to Deal with Life’s Little Stinks

1) Accept the stink

Life’s stinks are part of the game. Period.

I will admit, however, that I did not want to accept my particular stink at first. I tried to walk around the town, but within minutes I was back in the room, collapsed in my viral-induced exhaustion herunterladen.

Eventually I just had to accept that this was my deal for the moment. My body needed to stay put. There was no point in fighting the truth because it wasn’t going to change and I would just get disappointed.  I had to give in to it…surrender to it, accept my new reality.

2) Feel the stink

Don’t get me wrong…I didn’t accept this stink with a smile. I was sad and disappointed cookies herunterladen.

It’s funny. When we feel happy we let that emotion come in, pass through us, and then, eventually, pass back out of us like a wave…returning us to our emotional base state.

When it comes to unhappy emotions, however, we tend to do one of two things.

We either stifle them, trying to hold them back and pretending they aren’t there, which only makes them hurt more and stay longer…or we bring them in then wallow in them, holding onto our unhappiness as though it validates our experience somehow sofatutor videos herunterladen.

Treating unhappy emotions like happy ones – meaning to feel them and let them pass through – honors them and also gets rid of them more quickly. At least that’s what happens in my world.

3) Address the stink

Once the stink is accepted and felt, it’s time to act wie kann ich ein youtube video kostenlos herunterladen.

It’s time to inform the boss that we’re going to miss the meeting, begin the search for a new house, find the best way to support our loved ones with their diagnosis.

Acceptance doesn’t mean non-action. It means knowing how things are so that we can respond in a meaningful way. Then doing it.

4) Remember the stink

Eventually the stink will pass…or at least your new situation will become your new normal canva image.

Try not to let the stinky memory fade away completely. Use it to inform future decisions, to feel grateful that the stink is behind you.

Yes, this is a tricky one. Our memories are short and we tend to forget the messages we’ve learned.  Do your best to remember anyway.

And know that, when the next stink comes – which it will – you’ll be able to handle it.

And, in the meantime, you can enjoy those non-stinky moments with everything you’ve got.

That’s what I did when I finally got to see the Alps for myself..

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…on the morning we left town.

This week…

Know that life will hand you a stink every once in a while.

Accept and feel your stink. Respond to it and remember it.

And know that life’s stinks are just part of the game.

And you can handle it just fine.

Now, go do good…and do it well.

7 thoughts on “What to do about Life’s Little Stinks

  1. Craig says:

    How how I can relate. 🙂 I just call them glitches but it’s all one and the same.

    Very timely and appropriate, as always. Just gotta work through them, or as you say, accept the new normal. If you dwell on them, they were make your stink a really big stinker, which is the opposite of what you want.

    When are you back in the states? Hope you keep your stinks down to a minimum.

    Day at a time.

    Craig

    1. Craig says:

      …they “will”…(my typing is atrocious)

    2. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks for reading this, Craig! I must admit that you were on my mind as I wrote it…I know that some stinks are worse than others and have learned a lot from watching how you handle your particular stink. I’m back in about two months and look forward to swapping not-so-stinky stories when I return…

  2. Cindi says:

    This is one of my faves – well done! And….ugh….sorry about he hiccup 🙂

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Why thank you Cindy…so pleased you enjoyed it. And the hiccup is well past…now I just have to remember the stink so I appreciate actually being able to go outside. 🙂

  3. Patty says:

    thank you again for your much learned wisdom Deirdre. It has been said “life happens while we are making plans” I think acceptance is one of the most important tools we learn in life and feeling our feelings so the unhappy ones don’t destroy us. Such a wonderful reminder for me. Stay well and enjoy. Wishing you no more stinks on the rest of your trip!!

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Completely agree Patty…it’s feeling the feelings, then letting them GO, that is so important…and can be so difficult! Thanks for the comment…

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