Tag: personal

  • The Problem with Your Good Intentions

    The Problem with Your Good Intentions

    Well, I meant well. Recently a friend of mine was getting ready to celebrate a milestone birthday. This friend is awesome. She’s just so good at knowing what to say to you and how to care for you and which kind of munchy snack to bring when you’re feeling blue. And so, a group of…

  • The Unexpected Lesson from Six Legs on Southwest

    The Unexpected Lesson from Six Legs on Southwest

    So last week was a Southwest Airlines extravaganza. We began the first of six legs at the start of the week, flying up to northern California for work, then back home to San Diego. Two days later, a presentation brought us to Providence, RI and back (plus a layover each way). Let me say now…

  • Why You Must Consider the Other Option

    Why You Must Consider the Other Option

    Recently I needed a favor. I was working on a new project, and I was stuck. Really stuck. I needed advice on how to “unstick” from someone who’d been there. And I knew who that perfect someone was. Martha Martha was awesome. She’d done something similar to what I was trying to do and she’d…

  • The Big Small Talk Mistake

    The Big Small Talk Mistake

    “You get to do the conversation if this one is chatty.” These are actual words I said to Hubby as we awaited our Lyft Driver at 4:45AM last week. We were about to fly out of town and were ready to roll. All we needed was to get to the airport. Which is when we…

  • The Two Letters that Can Ruin Any Relationship

    The Two Letters that Can Ruin Any Relationship

    So I came across an interesting nugget the other day. It was about a favorite actor and performer of mine: Nathan Lane. Even if you’re not as smitten by Nathan as I am, chances are you’ll still be somewhat compelled by one of his first official gigs: delivering singing telegrams. Even more compelling? The reason…

  • What to Do About the Snark in Your Life

    What to Do About the Snark in Your Life

    I had a bad moment the other day. It made me look bad. It was potentially damaging to my reputation. And it was 100%, without a doubt, my own fault. I had emailed a colleague to confirm a phone call we’d set up for the next day. I told her I would be expecting her…

  • Lessons from a True Tale (Told in Ten Bullet Points)

    Lessons from a True Tale (Told in Ten Bullet Points)

    So last week was a bit humbling. It was a week that brought another valuable lesson. Part of what was so humbling was that I’d learned this particular lesson before. And then forgotten it. In fact, it’s probably happened more times than I care to think about. And it’s such an important one. And –…

  • Why You’re Scared About the Wrong Thing

    Why You’re Scared About the Wrong Thing

    So…things have gotten slightly anxiety-ridden in the Maloney house. The culprit? Well…I wrote a play. Yes, the theater kind. The last time I did this was back when I was in college. As in undergrad college. As in a looooong time ago. Oh, and I’m also going to produce the play this year. The last…

  • But Not Today

    But Not Today

    Well this is a tricky time, yes? Let’s count a few ways… There are the holidays, which often come with a multitude of festive moments…and a multitude of non-festive moments. Think traffic, crowds, and, potentially, a few forced smiles around that carefully-set dinner table. There’s also…and let me say first that I am in nooooooo…

  • How to Deal with Your Whole Lotta Nothing

    How to Deal with Your Whole Lotta Nothing

    So recently life got kind of…funky. The schedule, the business, the personal stuff… …all funky. Work projects got all bunched together, with odd, quiet stretches in-between. Same thing with my writing projects. And travel. And personal engagements. And good books. The result? Clusters of weeks where life sped along at an almost chaotic pace. Which…

  • When Life Laughs at Your Best Laid Plans

    When Life Laughs at Your Best Laid Plans

    This month found me exploring the country of Japan for the first time. Those of you who know me won’t be surprised to learn that I did a whole lot of planning…or, as I lovingly called it, “Japlanning”…in the months leading up to the trip.  And that Japlanning paid off. Mostly. There were a few…

  • The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    Last week I went to see the new Star Trek movie. On a Wednesday. In the middle of the afternoon. It was lots of fun, even though we didn’t take the whole things as seriously as…other couples. While I’m not a big Star Trek fan, it turns out that Hubbie is. And partnerships are about…compromise.…