Tag: regret

  • The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    Last week I went to see the new Star Trek movie. On a Wednesday. In the middle of the afternoon. It was lots of fun, even though we didn’t take the whole things as seriously as…other couples. While I’m not a big Star Trek fan, it turns out that Hubbie is. And partnerships are about…compromise.…

  • How to Actually Do the Thing that Scares the Bejesus Out of You

    How to Actually Do the Thing that Scares the Bejesus Out of You

    So those of you who regularly read this blog will know that I can be a bit of a joke-cracker. It seems there are some days when I can’t get a sentence out without some kind of cheeky quip thrown in. Sometimes it’s almost like a tic I can’t control. I’ve also been known to…

  • The Three Letters That Change Everything

    The Three Letters That Change Everything

    So here’s a bit of random Deirdre trivia for you (which, I promise, will lead to a greater point). I can’t cook. I’m not a good chopper, I’m not good at putting flavors together, and I’m impatient…which means I hike up the oven temperature to save time, leading to messes like this: I’ve staked my…

  • The Happiness Ratio

    The Happiness Ratio

    I recently found myself chatting with a woman I hadn’t met before. She was working a whole lot of hours. She had several kids. She didn’t sleep much. At all. I was overwhelmed just listening to her, and asked if it was all worth it, if she was happy. She turned the question around and…

  • Why It’s Time to Give Up the Thing You Never Had in the First Place

    Why It’s Time to Give Up the Thing You Never Had in the First Place

    I recently found myself observing a little girl as she attempted to build a sandcastle. Before long, her Dad came by to give her a hand. Then, slowly but surely, one by one, additional guys strolled by and joined him. The little girl was cast aside as they focused on the critical mission of granular…

  • The Number One Way to Get What You Want

    The Number One Way to Get What You Want

    So…there’s an interesting trend to report in the life of Deirdre. At first it might sound like it’s the high-and-mighty variety, but I promise you it’s not. The trend? People tend to give me things I want. A few examples: The guy in front of me at Starbucks let me go ahead of him in…

  • Digging Out of the Talking-Trap

    Digging Out of the Talking-Trap

    I fell into a trap recently. A talking-trap. A guy-who-wouldn’t-stop-talking-to-me-no-matter-what-I-did trap. It happened while Hubbie and I were vacationing in a rented RV up in the wine country. It turns out the small-ish living space inside the RV had nothing on the teensy space outside of it. Case and point? Here’s a photo of our…

  • The Super-Simple, Super-Awesome Word that Makes You Happier, Less Stressed, and Less Disappointed in Life

    The Super-Simple, Super-Awesome Word that Makes You Happier, Less Stressed, and Less Disappointed in Life

    Recently I took a trip to the poker table. Actually, I took a return trip to the poker table. You see, I used to play a lot of poker tournaments. A lot. In fact, I played in the World Poker Tour. (Note: Just kidding. I’m totally posing in front of the official backdrop after the…

  • How to NOT be Oprah

    How to NOT be Oprah

    I used to want to do great things. I mean REALLY great things. Sometime around the age of nine I decided that I was put on this planet to do truly amazing, transformational, really, really great things. I aimed high, my friends…as many of us do from time to time. Me? I wanted to be…

  • The Truth About Your Stuck-ness

    The Truth About Your Stuck-ness

    So…you may have missed it, but we recently passed through another holiday. Groundhog Day. It’s a funny little holiday with a funny little tradition, involving – some might say – a funny little animal. While most of us don’t get too caught up in Groundhog Day, many of us do remember the famous Groundhog Day…

  • Your Critical Choice for the New Year

    Your Critical Choice for the New Year

    Well, the days leading into this fine new year had a bit of an unexpected flavor. I present to you two different scenarios, and invite you to figure out which one is true. Scenario #1 Just as we were getting down to the holiday, I pushed my body to the point where I caught a…

  • When Frustration Hits…Ask Yourself This

    When Frustration Hits…Ask Yourself This

    Recently I found myself engaging in an annoying pattern of behavior. In just the past two weeks there have been several instances when I’ve tried to open a package of some kind. Once it was a hotel bar of soap. Once it was a packet of Vitamin C. Once it was a bag of airplane…