Tag: relationships

  • 3 Words to Stop Making People Mad at You

    3 Words to Stop Making People Mad at You

    A few weeks ago Hubbie and I found ourselves traveling to Prague for a quick weekend of touring before a work project began. All was going just peachy for the first 11 hours of our first flight…until we realized we were landing very late. And our already tight layover time…was now super-duper tight. Which led…

  • What to do About the (Stupid) Stuff You Can’t Do Anything About

    What to do About the (Stupid) Stuff You Can’t Do Anything About

    So last week saw the Maloneys taking part in a ritual that most of us – even in the best of circumstances – hate. I mean really, really hate. We moved. Which meant that, for a loooong time, our former living room looked like this: As if the move itself wasn’t enough of a…challenge, a…

  • How to Stop Making Your Life Worse

    How to Stop Making Your Life Worse

    So I had a bit of a revelation last week. It began first thing one morning, just as the alarm went off. As my arm swung over to shut it off, the following thought rushed in… …Man, that was a terrible night sleep. I’m going to be off my game today. I then began thinking…

  • How to Have a Crappy Conversation

    How to Have a Crappy Conversation

    This week brought an interesting theme. Two of my colleagues – and me – all found ourselves in a universally dreaded situation. We had to have crappy conversations. And they Stressed. Us. Out. (Nooooo sleeping here.) Colleague #1? He had to tell his somewhat-non-performing staff member who really loved working from home…that he would no…

  • The Boomerang Effect

    The Boomerang Effect

    A recent work trip found me networking with two women I hadn’t met before.  It didn’t take long before I noticed a pattern pop up. Let’s see if you catch it. Woman #1: Whew, it’s so great to be here because I thought I might not make it. My daughter just had her wisdom teeth…

  • The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    The Pesky Mind Game You Don’t Know You’re Playing on Yourself

    Last week I went to see the new Star Trek movie. On a Wednesday. In the middle of the afternoon. It was lots of fun, even though we didn’t take the whole things as seriously as…other couples. While I’m not a big Star Trek fan, it turns out that Hubbie is. And partnerships are about…compromise.…

  • How to Actually Do the Thing that Scares the Bejesus Out of You

    How to Actually Do the Thing that Scares the Bejesus Out of You

    So those of you who regularly read this blog will know that I can be a bit of a joke-cracker. It seems there are some days when I can’t get a sentence out without some kind of cheeky quip thrown in. Sometimes it’s almost like a tic I can’t control. I’ve also been known to…

  • The Three Letters That Change Everything

    The Three Letters That Change Everything

    So here’s a bit of random Deirdre trivia for you (which, I promise, will lead to a greater point). I can’t cook. I’m not a good chopper, I’m not good at putting flavors together, and I’m impatient…which means I hike up the oven temperature to save time, leading to messes like this: I’ve staked my…

  • The Happiness Ratio

    The Happiness Ratio

    I recently found myself chatting with a woman I hadn’t met before. She was working a whole lot of hours. She had several kids. She didn’t sleep much. At all. I was overwhelmed just listening to her, and asked if it was all worth it, if she was happy. She turned the question around and…

  • The Number One Way to Get What You Want

    The Number One Way to Get What You Want

    So…there’s an interesting trend to report in the life of Deirdre. At first it might sound like it’s the high-and-mighty variety, but I promise you it’s not. The trend? People tend to give me things I want. A few examples: The guy in front of me at Starbucks let me go ahead of him in…

  • Digging Out of the Talking-Trap

    Digging Out of the Talking-Trap

    I fell into a trap recently. A talking-trap. A guy-who-wouldn’t-stop-talking-to-me-no-matter-what-I-did trap. It happened while Hubbie and I were vacationing in a rented RV up in the wine country. It turns out the small-ish living space inside the RV had nothing on the teensy space outside of it. Case and point? Here’s a photo of our…

  • The Super-Simple, Super-Awesome Word that Makes You Happier, Less Stressed, and Less Disappointed in Life

    The Super-Simple, Super-Awesome Word that Makes You Happier, Less Stressed, and Less Disappointed in Life

    Recently I took a trip to the poker table. Actually, I took a return trip to the poker table. You see, I used to play a lot of poker tournaments. A lot. In fact, I played in the World Poker Tour. (Note: Just kidding. I’m totally posing in front of the official backdrop after the…