Last week my husband called with what he thought was exciting news. He’d scored free tickets to the Aztecs game and – more importantly in his opinion – to the fireworks show afterwards.
“The fireworks are supposed to be incredible,” he told me excitedly. “Wanna go?”
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The truth? No, I didn’t want to go.
Hubbie loves all things pyrotechnic, and so I’ve seen my share of fireworks displays. In fact, I’m pretty sure I’ve seen your share, too like youtube video. Plus the show was on Saturday, my beloved day of rest for the week.
And so I shrugged and said, “Not really…but if you want to go I’ll do it.”
But let’s be clear.
We didn’t go because he won some silly argument. We didn’t go because I all of a sudden realized that fireworks shows are just too fabulous to miss microsoft office outlook 2007 download kostenlos.
We went because, in the end, I really didn’t care that much what we did. I just wanted to have some fun, spend some time together, and get away from the weekday grind.
The truth is, when it really comes down to it there’s a whole lot I don’t care about.
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What it means is that I’ve figured out the big question – and in turn, the key to happiness.
Does this really matter…really?
The answer, when I’m being honest, means everything.
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Then, they let the rest of it go.
Think it’s easy? Think again.
I, for one, used to be terrible at this.
I was one of those people.
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Because they think it’s fun or because it’s something to win. Or because they want to be right.
Or because they think it matters.
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And so I figured out what really I care about. For now, the list is as follows:
The Five Things Deirdre Really Cares About
- My husband and our quality of life
- My close circle of family and friends
- My business
- My book
- My “me time” at the gym
What this means is that – each and every day – whenever I’m working on, talking about or pursuing something connected to this list, I aggressively push forward. I make choices. I fight for what I believe in.
I fervently defend my Big Five.
The rest smileys downloaden iphone? I let it go.
Because I don’t need to get anything from it. Because, in the end, I really don’t care that much.
- When my family comes to visit and we’re deciding how to spend the day, I let them choose. It doesn’t matter as long as we’re together.
- When I’m with friends and politics come up, I move the conversation to something else download the planner 3 for free. I don’t need to convince anybody of anything, and would rather feel peaceful.
- When someone is using the gym equipment I want, I move on to another machine. I just want to work my shoulders somehow.
When hubbie and I choose our restaurant, or our movie, or what we’ll watch on the tube that night, I usually throw out some options and leave it up to him TV movies.
I care enough to know that I’d prefer mindless reality TV over a mindless sitcom, but it pretty much stops there.
Want to be happier, lighter, more energetic? Ask the question.
Does this really matter…really?
- Do I really care about the outcome of this or do I just need to convince someone I’m right?
- Do I really need to get my way or will the experience be fine regardless of how it turns out?
- Do I really want to put forth the energy, the time, and the frustration to come out on top?
If the answer is no, let it go. And know it’ll be fine.
By the way, that second really is in there for a reason.
Because often times our first answer to the question is a hearty: Yes…of course it matters!
That was my answer…a lot.
But once I pinpointed my Big Five, once I asked that question again, once I got to that second really…I realized the answer is often…no.
And so I learned to let things go.
- And I let others have their way.
- And I let them…dare I say it?…win.
- And I saved myself energy and time.
This week, pay attention to what you’re fighting for. What you’re putting your energy into.
And whether or not it really matters.
That fireworks show? It was…so-so. But in the end, it didn’t really matter.
But it mattered to hubbie. And it made him happy.
And so it made me happy, too.
Now, go do good…and do it well.