I’ve talked a lot about what I believe to be the key to a successful life. And a happy one.
Connecting with people.
- It gets others to believe us and trust us…
- Which makes them want to engage with us on a deeper level…
- And refer others to do the same…
But sometimes all of that advice doesn’t matter. Because there’s still one little mistake we make that messes it up whatsapp audio lässt sich nicht herunterladen. Every time.
And we’ve got to fix it.
So we’ll do it today.
Allow me to illustrate that little mistake through a quick tale.
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And in that single second, our connection was broken.
In that second it became clear that our conversation was not that important to him mindmap appen. That I wasn’t worth his full attention.
That, perhaps, he was looking for someone who was.
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You might think you know this. You might be absolutely positive it doesn’t apply to you.
Stick with me for a minute.
I promise you – it does windows 10 s downloaden. I wouldn’t be writing this post if I didn’t see it happen every day, with everyone from corporate managers to boards of directors to highly qualified business professionals music online legally and free of charge.
I wouldn’t be doing this if I wasn’t guilty of it myself – every day.
And I’m really aware of it.
We all do it.
- We’ll be in a meeting and – just for a moment – our eyes roam to the clock, the plaque on the wall, the people talking quietly to each other across the table herunterladen.
- We’ll be at a popular restaurant with a co-worker and our eyes wander to the door to see if anyone we know comes in.
- We’re at a luncheon – one where our whole goal is to meet other people – and we focus away from the one in front of us to the others we might go to next.
In a world that’s chock full of new ways to connect, the irony is that connecting is more difficult than ever.
- Concentrating on one person is hard because because there’s so much going on around us.
- Focusing on just one thing at a time is hard because we’re used to doing so many different things at once.
- Keeping eye contact is hard because our usual modes of communication are keyboards and phone pads.
Great leaders know there is no excuse not to engage with others.
They also know what true engagement means:
…treating others like they are the most important people in the room.
…getting them to talk to you about their lives, their perspectives, their opinions.
…keeping their eye contact so they believe you really care as they do it.
This week, as you speak with others, notice how tempted you are to let your eyes wander to something else – how you do it out of pure habit.
Then force yourself – really force yourself – to keep eye contact.
Do. Not. Look. Away. First.
Sit with your back to the door if you must. Turn your phone off. Force yourself to hold someone’s gaze until it hurts.
Do this and connect.
Do this, and know that you stand out from just about everyone else in the room.
Do this and know you’ll form the strongest relationships around.
Now, go do good…and do it well.