What’s Up with All the Honking?

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What’s Up With All the Honking?

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Recently I found myself in a new city. I won’t mention it by name, but if you’re curious I will say that it starts with an “F” and rhymes with “Mort Mauderdale”.

Hubbie and I decided to spend our one day there checking out the sites. Our specific mission was to find a new pair of pajama pants (resulting from an unfortunate “I-can’t-believe-you-forgot-to-check-that-drawer-before-we-checked-out” moment upon leaving our previous hotel) download currently not possible try it later s3.

The day was a hot one, as tends to happen in Mort Mauderdale. And we all know that the heat can take its toll on even the best of us.

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As we came to our first intersection, we watched as two cars turned in the same direction, attempting to merge into the same lane.

Both cars laid on the horn.

At the next block we saw the light turn green, and the lead driver was a bit slow to hit the gas. Which is apparently why the line of cars behind him…

…laid on the horn app instructions iphone.

By intersection three we were curious. Would the trend continue? Sure enough, a car blocked the intersection while waiting for traffic to pass, causing a whole bunch of other cars to…

…lay on the horn.

We were puzzled. What was up with all that honking? And what did it say about the city of Mort Mauderdale?

And that’s when we realized that the honking really had nothing to do with the city, or the heat, or even the cars that might have been at fault herunterladen.

The honking had to do with the drivers who were doing it…the honkers if you will.

Now, to be fair I really can’t judge too harshly on this one. I’ve certainly done my share of honking in this lifetime. Really, we all have.

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But I also know what honking really is windows 10 mail anhänge fehler beim herunterladen.

Honking is the opportunity to let someone know you’re frustrated or angry, without ever having to face them in person. Honking is a form of passive aggression, and a somewhat cowardly one at that.

Honking is something that feels okay for many of us to do, but feels terribly personal when it happens to us.

Honking may create sound on the outside, but it happens because we’re not too happy inside…and we need a release magic tiles 3 herunterladen.

When you look at it this way, honking doesn’t just happen in cars.

  • Honking happens in social media, when we post something nasty about a place of business or an elected official, knowing we’ll never have to look them in the eye
  • Honking happens when we shout nasty judgements at the celebrities or news reporters on our television sets, even though we don’t know them at all
  • Honking is the snarky comment we make about a co-worker under our breath…the passive aggressive dig we give to our sister…the rolling of the eyes when the store clerk isn’t moving fast enough

This kind of honking has nothing to do with those we’re honking at…

…and everything to do with us as honkers.

What it really means is that we ourselves are frustrated or just feel bad in some way. It means that we are desperate to let off a bit of steam, to play the victim, to blame someone else for how we’re feeling popcorn time herunterladen.

Sure, sometimes honking is necessary…like when a car drifts into our lane, or when a driver isn’t paying attention. But we’re not talking about that kind of honking.

We’re talking about the bitter, laying-on-the-horn, passive-aggressive kind of honking.

The good news is that when we honk – inside the car or in another way – we’ve got a surefire sign that something is amiss in our lives steam soundtrack herunterladen. Which means we can then set about figuring out what it is and getting our lives back on track.

It’s just up to us as honkers to take notice.

A few pointers for those on either side of the honking relationship…

To those who honk:

  • Recognize what it means when you lay on the horn
  • Notice when you do it more, the patterns going on in your life
  • Understand the real reason you’re all honk-crazy
  • Then try to make the problem better

To those who get honked at:

  • Cut the driver some slack. He or she isn’t in a good place. And you are. Because you’re not honking.
  • Try not to take it personally. Really, it’s not about you. (Unless you drive really terribly herunterladen. Then it might be a little bit.)

I tried to remember this during that hot walk in Mort Mauderdale, and it worked. Because in that moment I was not in a honking place myself.

Nor was I later…when our mission was accomplished so successfully.

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This week…

Recognize your honking tendencies – inside and outside of the car windows 98 operating system for free.

Figure out what’s really up with your honking.

Then make it better. Honk less. Feel happier.

Now go do good…and do it well.

 

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PS: Special thanks to humboldthead for the baby photo and istolethetv for the pooch pic.

13 thoughts on “What’s Up with All the Honking?

  1. Great article and fantastic way to put it all in perspective!

  2. Jim Price says:

    Great article! Really enjoyed the podcast.

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks to you both for reading (and listening!), Marnie and Jim – so glad you enjoyed the post 🙂

  3. Lauri M says:

    As a no -honker who gets agitated with my honker man, I REALLY appreciate the outsiders perspective. Not sure I am ready to share it with him…will wait for a day when he is no so honk-ish

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      This is awesome, Lauri! I love that the post helped you look at things just a bit differently. Hubbie is also a no-honker (inside the car, anyway), and I think it might have helped him do the same. At least I hope so. 🙂

  4. Patty says:

    Thank you Deirdre for such a positive and taking care of self perspective. I often think that road rage is not about the road. It gives me more patience for those honkers. And even in other situations in life. When someone makes “not so nice comments”. Most times it is not about me. Yes I love the audio and would love to have you do it more.

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      I think you’re right Patty…road rage is about so much, but the road is not one of them! Thanks for the comment and glad you enjoyed the audio!

  5. Loved the podcast, but also like having the written text because sometimes, I’m not in a place where I can listen. It was great hearing your voice again, Deirdre! Hope to hear it again soon, in person.

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      Thanks Sandy – I’ll definitely keep the text no matter what. Glad you enjoyed the podcast…and that hearing my voice again was a good thing. 🙂

  6. Sue says:

    Love this article and how you translate it to the non-transportation perspective of our lives. When I moved here to Richmond, VA about 8 years ago I was astounded that no one honked their horns. Having moved here from Dallas, I thought honking was just part of driving. Here, tho, when someone honks their horn, the appropriate response from any Richmonder is “Ah, they must not be from around here”. Richmond has repeatedly been voted as one of the happiest cities in the US. I’ve assimilated and rarely, if ever, use my horn (only as a “danger danger” response). And, I certainly don’t miss it! Thanks for a refreshing perspective.

    1. Deirdre Maloney says:

      I’m guessing the happiness ranking and the lack-of-honking may be somewhat connected, yes Sue? Glad you liked the blog…thanks for taking the time to comment!

      1. Sue says:

        That’s my take-away!! It’s a pretty congenial place!

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