Throughout our careers, many of us have all kinds of aspirations. We want to move up up up in our organizations. We want better titles and more money.
And we want to supervise other people.
And oh, we think, how our staff will love us! How they will appreciate our guidance and our feedback amazon prime im ausland herunterladen! And we, together as a team, will not just meet, but exceed our organizational goals! Hurrah!
And then we actually became supervisors. And we realized the hard truth.
If you are a supervisor your staff might not like you very much.
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And…here’s what many don’t know. That’s okay.
So why don’t they like you? Consider two big reasons.
Reason #1 – the things you say
As a leader, in addition to offering all kinds of support and kudos to staff when things go right, you also need to hold them accountable when they don’t.
It’s a difficult prospect for most people. It’s even worse in the nonprofit sector, filled with committed, passionate adults, rallying around an often-emotional cause c cleaner herunterladen.
The result? Many supervisors avoid those hard conversations.
We don’t want to be too critical. We don’t want to hurt feelings. We don’t want to make things uncomfortable.
I’ve been there. My first time around I was unable or – more accurately – unwilling to have hard conversations with my staff. These people were passionate…they were intense…they were my buddies kostenlos musik kostenlos downloaden. They were good people. And to be real honest? They liked me. And that felt good.
Then I realized that my failure to provide critical feedback meant my organization suffered.
We weren’t improving in our work and we weren’t as effective as we could be.
And I knew I had to sit up straight, look staff in the eye, suppress the nausea, and do it von 3sat mediathek downloaden.
I talked to staff who had a good heart but weren’t performing.
I talked to staff who were performing, but had a terrible attitude.
I had hard conversations around lack of punctuality and lack of organization.
I discussed issues around verbals and non-verbals, and inappropriate dress.
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And eventually I realized it didn’t necessarily matter. Because I knew my organization was better for it.
Reason #2 – the decisions you make
As leaders, we must make hard, unpopular decisions for the good of our organizations.
I restructured programs and brought in external partners. I cut programs and moved our offices to a different location. I changed our vacation policies and adjusted titles teamviewer kostenlos windows 7.
And while I thought through each of these choices, got appropriate feedback before finalizing them, and always gave reasons as to why I did what I did, sometimes that wasn’t enough.
They still didn’t think I got it. They still thought I was unfair. They still didn’t like me.
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You might choose your words carefully (and you should), and you might be consistent and fair (and you should), and it simply might not matter.
They won’t like it. And they won’t like you because of it.
And it feels terrible. So find external, appropriate support to remind you that you’re still a good person and, more importantly, that you’re a great leader herunterladen.
Let me be the first to assure you that you are.
So know that if you’re not liked it’s common. And chances are it’s a sign that you’re doing something right.
And the truth is, even if it doesn’t feel like it, some staff will like you for the very reasons others don’t. And, believe it or not, even those who don’t might one day grow to appreciate you, too herunterladen.
But also consider this.
If you’re a leader who is beloved by every single person right now, you just might be doing something wrong.
Now, go do good…and do it well.